I couldn’t change the things I had to forgive, but I could change if I forgave. To hold a grudge is self-destruction, but forgiveness is a strength. It’s a process of humbling myself and leaning on the truth, and in all things the truth is far better than a lie.
~Twenty seven and a half years ~ Gregory Bright.
Forgiveness can be defined as the voluntary, internal process one experiences when releasing feelings of anger, resentment, bitterness and the need for revenge or retribution when we’ve been wronged or harmed by someone.
Forgiveness is not forgetting or condoning an action that caused pain, but the act of releasing the emotions triggered by the experience.
So you can move on. So you may discover a sense of peace within yourself, despite the negative experience inflicted by another.
But What does it mean to move on?
Quite often, we allow ourselves to fall victim to our past, clinging to moments of trauma, hurt and pain, repeatedly reliving the experiences in our mind.
Tormenting ourselves in this manner has a major effect on our thoughts, beliefs, physical health, behavioural patterns, relationships and how we show up in the world.
It can keep us stuck, in our minds and in our day to day life, preventing us from growing, learning and moving forward.
To let go of these emotions, to allow release, is to enter into a state of freedom. Our hearts are open. Suffering is greeted by love.
Spiritual Author and motivational speaker Dr Wayne Dwyer writes; “It was one act of profound forgiveness toward my own father, whom I never saw or talked to, that turned my life around from one of ordinary awareness to one of higher consciousness, achievement, and success beyond anything I had ever dared to imagine.”
He then goes on to speak about what it means to forgive;
“We forgive by releasing all resentment, anger, and bitterness and thus set ourselves free from the negative feelings that weaken us. First we have to get past blame. Then we have to learn to send love to all. One of the great lessons of forgiveness is the report of Jesus’s words on the cross: “Forgive them for they know not what they do.” They really did not know the harm they were doing to themselves and to all of us. Meet hatred with love.”
It’s important to keep in mind when we endure hurt by another, it comes from a place of unconsciousness. Understanding this, shedding any inner self righteous beliefs, humbling yourself into remembering your state of connectedness with “being”, that space within you that is incapable of being injured, will make forgiveness come easier.
The decision to forgive, release, let go, is essential for mental health, personal growth and spiritual expansion. Without this process of internal learning, we remain locked in a prison of our own suffering.
“Forgiveness is to offer no resistance to life - to allow life to live through you. The alternatives are pain and suffering, a greatly restricted flow of life energy, and in many cases physical disease. The moment you truly forgive, you have reclaimed your power from the mind.” ~ Eckhart Tolle